Letters to the Editor
Dotson says town's charge to remove name is unfair
Iím writing this letter due to an issue I have had in removing a name relating to one of my utility bills. I went through a very difficult divorce just over 2 years ago. As most of you know there are many things that need to be changed when you divorce and change your name. The ex-spouseís name needs to be removed from utility bills, charge accounts, insurance, bank accounts, etc.
I would like to commend all of the facilities/institutions/businesses that I have dealt with regarding this issue of removing my ex-spouseís name and changing my name with the exception of one: The Town of Mountain City Water Department. The Mayor and the City Manager have told me they have a Ďpolicyí that to have someoneís name removed from your bill you MUST pay them $50.00 or the party must personally request their name be removed. Not one of the other businesses that I have dealt with has such a charge. I had this account with The Town of Mountain City Water Department several years prior to my ex-husband being placed on the account. The water department did not charge me to add his name to the account. I have written the Mayor regarding this matter and spoken to the City Manager explaining that my ex-husband will certainly not be paying my water bill and due to the bitterness of the divorce will not request to have his name removed because that would be helping me.
I have a friend in a similar situation, her mother is in her 90ís and has been in the nursing home for several years and will never again be paying the water bill. When her mother went into the nursing home she and her husband requested to have her motherís name removed from the account and that it be placed in their name since it is their residence and they pay the bill. The Town of Mountain City told them it would cost them $50.00 to have her motherís name removed. I assume that when my friendís mother passes away, the Town of Mountain City will also want $50.00 in order to remove her name after death.
I know there are certain policies in all business and there are also exceptions to these policies when the circumstances warrant it. I have requested than an exception be made in this instance since I owned the account prior to my ex-husbandís name being added but was told, ďI will not change itĒ by the City Manager in no uncertain terms. I do not know if my request was ever brought before the Board of Alderman for discussion, I doubt that it was.
I am not a rude person unless Iím being treated rudely and in this case I have been.
I appreciate all of the other businesses that have treated me kindly and have been understanding of the circumstances and situation.
I would hope that in the next city election that a Mayor would be elected that, yes, does look out for the town financially but also understands that some ways of making money are not humanitarian. They may find themselves in a similar situation in time, I wonder if they would feel justified in paying $50.00 in the case of death or divorce.
Shepherd encourages ME/CFS and CFIDS suffeerers
May 12th is awareness day for Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (also known as ME/CFS and CFIDS). These illnesses can become a thief of dreams and the decision maker, for those living with them each and every day. †This is dedicated to all the courageous ones - living, surviving, and triumphing, while dealing with such debilitating illness.
Walking In Strength
For those of us who face chronic illness each day, thinking positive is not an easy task. Itís not as if we dwell on the negative, yet the negative finds us. We not only deal with daily pain and the many other symptoms - we also deal with all of lifeís ups and downs. †I feel we do a grand job by enduring as many symptoms as we do, each and every day, while still surviving. †For we realize that the long list of symptoms is daunting.
Learning to live within our limitations is not a negative thing, yet a way to rearrange our life in order to live it. Finding new ways of doing daily tasks is a very creative thing. I find you amazing as to how you manage this. You find new ways of healing, new ways of coping, new ways to entertain yourself, new talents that you didnít know you had. †
Our journey may be very difficult. It may be very long and tiresome, yet you do it with such grace - grace like Iíve never seen before. Youíre learning an entire new way to live, a new way of thinking, and doing it soulfully. Youíve learned how to rethink what productive now means to you. Knowing that everyoneís productive isnít the same, and thatís okay. †Youíre still alive and moving ever forward as you learn to maneuver in this new way of life. Youíve accepted the challenge and looked it right in the face. I call that courageous.
You are a vital human being. This illness is not of your own making. Itís not who you are. Itís just where you are. You show your strength and courage with each breath you take, every obstacle you overcome, each time you learn new ways to cope. You are fearless, even in your pain.
Now I want you to take this truth into each day. Allow it to cover your entire being. There will be those in your life that donít or wonít understand what you face each day. Chronic illness has taught me one very important thing: Some people will fill you up, while others will drain you, so choose wisely.
Know the reality is that you are wonderful just as you are. You have a type of bravery thatís seldom seen, for you live it in solitude. I see it - I know itís there. Now believe it for yourself. †This strength, that is who you are is in you, beside you, in front of you. Know this and allow the light thatís shining ever so bright in you to guide you, hold you, and sustain you. I applaud this person that you are for you are the description of courage.